Comments on: Even Dads Need to Defrag http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/ Sun, 14 Mar 2010 21:43:11 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: Pete Aldin http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-277 Pete Aldin Sun, 09 Sep 2007 00:23:05 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-277 There's a nice take on this at http://www.joyfuljubilantlearning.com/joyful_jubilant_learning/2007/09/a-harbor-in-the.html There’s a nice take on this at
http://www.joyfuljubilantlearning.com/joyful_jubilant_learning/2007/09/a-harbor-in-the.html

]]> By: Pete http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-276 Pete Wed, 05 Sep 2007 05:18:14 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-276 Ah, there's nothing like trawling through Blog Archives to pass the time. Isn't it interesting how something posted 3 months ago is "old"!! Godspeed with putting that energy into doing nothing! Sounds great to me! Ah, there’s nothing like trawling through Blog Archives to pass the time. Isn’t it interesting how something posted 3 months ago is “old”!!

Godspeed with putting that energy into doing nothing! Sounds great to me!

]]> By: Joe http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-275 Joe Tue, 04 Sep 2007 23:42:07 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-275 I'm lucky to have found this moldy oldie (not terribly old, at all, except by blog standards). I've been thinking about this very thing lately: how badly I need it, how much I don't get it, and how it affects my interaction with the One and the Five. I definitely need to put some more energy into putting energy into nothing. I’m lucky to have found this moldy oldie (not terribly old, at all, except by blog standards). I’ve been thinking about this very thing lately: how badly I need it, how much I don’t get it, and how it affects my interaction with the One and the Five. I definitely need to put some more energy into putting energy into nothing.

]]> By: Pete http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-269 Pete Fri, 18 May 2007 05:37:23 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-269 That's exactly what I'm doing and that's the most sense you'll get out of me today! Thanks for remembering, Leah! :) That’s exactly what I’m doing and that’s the most sense you’ll get out of me today! Thanks for remembering, Leah! :)

]]> By: Leah Maclean http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-268 Leah Maclean Fri, 18 May 2007 00:09:33 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-268 I hope that you're going to do some defraging on your birthday Pete! Have a good one! I hope that you’re going to do some defraging on your birthday Pete! Have a good one!

]]> By: Bad Dad http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-267 Bad Dad Thu, 17 May 2007 11:46:02 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-267 Actually, my favorite commute was crossing New York harbor on the Staten Island Ferry. I did that crossing daily for about 10 years. As Kathryn said, water is very calming. Just getting a hint of salt air, a breeze and the sound of waves crashing for 25 minutes was quite relaxing. Actually, my favorite commute was crossing New York harbor on the Staten Island Ferry. I did that crossing daily for about 10 years. As Kathryn said, water is very calming. Just getting a hint of salt air, a breeze and the sound of waves crashing for 25 minutes was quite relaxing.

]]> By: Markk http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-273 Markk Thu, 17 May 2007 10:38:52 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-273 Ah, memories. I used to catch up to 8 trains a day for my first job. Fortunately this has now dropped down to 2. I find that driving time is not adequate defrag time. If I'm stressed at the beginning of a drive, I'll be stressed at the end. Ah, memories. I used to catch up to 8 trains a day for my first job. Fortunately this has now dropped down to 2.

I find that driving time is not adequate defrag time. If I’m stressed at the beginning of a drive, I’ll be stressed at the end.

]]> By: kathryn http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-266 kathryn Thu, 17 May 2007 07:20:20 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-266 Hi there Pete, thanks for your comment. There really is something about water that seems to be an all-round calmer. I just bought Richard and I annual passes to the Sydney Aquarium and partly for defragging reasons. It's a great aquarium, open until late and towards the end there's a Great Barrier Reef section. It's a huge, huge tank, full of schools of fish, sharks, crayfish, rays, coral and right near the exit there's a wall of glass (basically one end of the tank), with stepped seating and gentle music playing. You can get lost in this whole eco-system that's swimming around and existing in front of you. It's beautiful and entrancing. Hi there Pete, thanks for your comment. There really is something about water that seems to be an all-round calmer. I just bought Richard and I annual passes to the Sydney Aquarium and partly for defragging reasons.

It’s a great aquarium, open until late and towards the end there’s a Great Barrier Reef section. It’s a huge, huge tank, full of schools of fish, sharks, crayfish, rays, coral and right near the exit there’s a wall of glass (basically one end of the tank), with stepped seating and gentle music playing. You can get lost in this whole eco-system that’s swimming around and existing in front of you. It’s beautiful and entrancing.

]]> By: Pete http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-272 Pete Tue, 15 May 2007 03:24:43 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-272 Man that can't be easy! Is there some other space in your month (or even your workday) where you can chill? I love the scene in "Collateral" (another movie!) where Jamie Foxx's character (the cab driver) has the postcard of the tropical island on the back of his visor and "takes a holiday" there for 5 minutes any time things get too much. It's kinda cheesy in real life but sometimes for sanity's sake we need SOMETHING. I hear ya tho, bro. Those constant demands you're talking abour are the reason why I believe this "defragging" needs to become a priority to us guys. (Man, how did you survive 22.5 hours commuting on 30 trains a week??? That would have sent me totally gaga!) Man that can’t be easy! Is there some other space in your month (or even your workday) where you can chill?

I love the scene in “Collateral” (another movie!) where Jamie Foxx’s character (the cab driver) has the postcard of the tropical island on the back of his visor and “takes a holiday” there for 5 minutes any time things get too much. It’s kinda cheesy in real life but sometimes for sanity’s sake we need SOMETHING.

I hear ya tho, bro. Those constant demands you’re talking abour are the reason why I believe this “defragging” needs to become a priority to us guys.

(Man, how did you survive 22.5 hours commuting on 30 trains a week??? That would have sent me totally gaga!)

]]> By: Bad Dad http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/even-dads-need-to-defrag/comment-page-1/#comment-271 Bad Dad Tue, 15 May 2007 02:14:36 +0000 http://www.freakedoutfathers.com/2007/05/13/even-dads-need-to-defrag/#comment-271 I used to spend 4.5 hours commuting (6 trains a day). Now I spend 2.5 hours driving. That travel time is my sacred space - my time to defrag. I get so annoyed when the phone starts to ring - most always it's my wife - usually twice while I'm driving home to tell me which kid did what bad thing and now lost something as punishment. If I don't pick up she'll leave a voice message and call again. I've asked her countless times to stop but she wont. I know she's going thru her own insanity during the evening hours - getting the meal ready, helping with homework, etc. while four kids whine and scream and moan. But this is my only time to shift gears mentally from the hectic work mode to hectic family mode. I just want to defrag in peace, with the windows down and a podcast on the stereo. I used to spend 4.5 hours commuting (6 trains a day). Now I spend 2.5 hours driving. That travel time is my sacred space – my time to defrag.

I get so annoyed when the phone starts to ring – most always it’s my wife – usually twice while I’m driving home to tell me which kid did what bad thing and now lost something as punishment. If I don’t pick up she’ll leave a voice message and call again. I’ve asked her countless times to stop but she wont.

I know she’s going thru her own insanity during the evening hours – getting the meal ready, helping with homework, etc. while four kids whine and scream and moan.

But this is my only time to shift gears mentally from the hectic work mode to hectic family mode. I just want to defrag in peace, with the windows down and a podcast on the stereo.

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