Man & Wife
October 19, 2007 by pete
Filed under Parenting & Family Posts
Ten years ago I went to a “Manhood” seminar. Maybe I was hoping to buy some from the merchandise tables or something, I dunno.
Anyhow, I distinctly remember something the keynote speaker Ed Cole said. I’ve heard it repeated by other writers many times, including Biddulph.
“When a man acts like a child, it makes his wife act like his mother … and you can’t make love to your mother.”
Mothers correct their children and make decisions for them. When we males put our partners in the position of needing to do this – when we “underfunction” – we place them in an anxious position, we place pressure on them to overfunction, to nag, to parent.
And then wonder why they don’t feel all amorous toward us.
Where do you draw the line between immature and mature, between boy and man?
